I have been seeing many posts on social media about how fat women (fat people) deserve to be treated better. Being a plump woman, I agree but I also know that some people benefit from being bigger. Benefits I can currently think of are; when going on a road trip, I sit up front if the rest of the passengers are smaller than me. When going to a restaurant I normally get bigger portions than my smaller built companion. I do not NEED more food, but its just assumed based on my looks. I mean I GUESS some people may condiser those benefits but they are a bother too.
I also get ignored or just stared at but not spoken to in public. I prefer to be left alone due to so many bad experiences but I am human and if you need to stare, don't be so brazen about it. I judge people too, I judge other fat people even. But I do not openly stare. I have been seeing a "normal" sized man that doesn't care about what people in public think, he dresses sometimes a bit alternatively and will sing and dance at a moments notice. I wish I was as free with myself as he is. (maybe one day) but I did stop caring so much about what people thought of my appearance. I stopped worrying about showing parts of me that had scars and am much more comfortable wearing dresses and shorts now. I figure people will judge me no matter if I have marred skin, or wore a size 2 or 20 but I am still not as carefree as he is. When he and I go out in public he is a perfect gentleman, opening doors for me, slowing his stride as he walks to make sure I am walking next to him and occasionally showing PDA. We get stares and if I point it out to him, he stares right back at the people. Which makes me nervously laugh but it makes me feel good that he is sticking up for me and not ashamed to be seen with me. We need more people like that in the world!
#stopfatshaming #stoptreatinguspoorly #wearenotfetishes
